Parenting

I've always wanted to be a mother. I still want that role more than anything. However, the more and more I learn about parenting, the more I realize just how difficult it is going to be. Something that stood out to me this week was really everyone's personal stories about their family life.  I noticed that a large amount of my peers have come from broken homes and divorced families.  This brought discussions about the roles of both parents in the home.  I am blessed to come from a family where I still have both of my parents and they both have an active role in me and my siblings lives.  I guess one thing that I learned this week that I will keep with me forever is the influence of parents on their children.  It motivated me to find someone I want to be with forever so we can both be their for our children. 

Fathers and Finances

This week we discussed about dual income families.  I'm always interested in learning about this because my mother didn't work.  My mom was always home. We could count on her for anything.  She was home when we got home, which after listening to this week's discussion was a huge blessing in my life.  I had a mommy while I was growing up that could be there for me.  This kept me safe from harm and it kept me out of trouble.  My mother expected us home right after school and if we were going to be late we always had to tell her exactly where we were going to be.  I look at kids that don't have a mom at home and they do live  a little more unstable life which is so sad. So I'm so grateful I was blessed with the fact that my mom could stay at home for us.  One of the financial topics we discussed was the importance of an honest tithe. This hit home for me because my parents taught me ever since I was little to pay a full tithe.This has helped me to be more honest with my other finances outside of tithing. I'm going to teach the concept of tithing early to my children because it has helped me be able to pay my tithing more willingly as I've grown older.

Communication/Problem Solving

This week in class we discussed  importance of family councils.  This really struck me because I grew up in a family that didn't really have family council. Okay we never have family council. This is definitely something that I can't wait to have in my future home with my future husband and children.  I want to include my children in our decisions.  This past week I've looked back on how our family decisions are made and it made me really sad a frustrated that us kids weren't involved at all in decisions. It made me angry. And that made me mad that I was angry about that.  I just think our family life would've been so much more close and enjoyable as we went through the trials we faced.  It impressed me to read about how the quorum of the 12 conduct their councils.  It was so organized and it was amazing how they listened to the Spirit. I think this is also a very effective way to discuss problems in our own homes.  If we can follow the Spirit in family matters, our homes will be a heaven on earth and we can progress towards perfection as the Proclamation to the Family states.

The Family Under Stress

This week we've discussed different stressors in the family.  I think the biggest thing that I've realized this week is about family crisis.  One thing that is important to remember is that families are all different. What's even more different are individuals in families.  We all handle family crisis in different ways. Every family is different in even constituting what is a family crisis.  For example: a fire may be completely devastating and life changing to one family compared to another family who would just find it as a mere hard time that they could get through together.  I think one big factor is the closeness of the family. If the individuals know how to work together to improve their situation-it brings them even closer and it makes them stronger.  If the family doesn't know how to work together during the hard times it makes for even more difficult times.  I think that's what is so hard on people when they first get married.  The couple usually have only known each other during the good and exciting times. When they get into the beginning stages of marriage they don't know how each other will react to different stressors.  I think a way to deal with family stress is to just get a general feel of how everyone handles the hard times. And then from there to learn and grow to deal with the next family stressor.

Sexual Intamacy

I was unable to be to class on Friday and I heard that we discussed how to teach children about sex. I'm disappointed I couldn't be there! I've always wanted to know the secret! I really appreciated the way sex was discussed in this class.  I appreciated that the Spirit was present and that we could discuss it as adults.  When I was younger my mom explained to me about all the changes that both boys and girls experienced during puberty, but I can honestly never remember her actually sitting me down and talking to me about sex.  I know she told me never to be afraid or embarrassed to ask her any questions, but I frankly couldn't ever think of how to ask the questions without feeling stupid or disgusted.  I'm grateful I had girlfriends I could talk to (maybe a little more information was shared than should've been.) But that's how I learned.  I'm grateful to belong to a church where we believe in the Law of Chastity.  I'm so grateful I covenanted to keep myself clean until I could share this sacred experience with my husband.  I'm so grateful that I will be able to have sacred experience because I have kept myself morally clean.  I was also grateful for the fact that we talked about sexual intimacy being a sacrament.  What a beautiful word to describe sexual intimacy between a husband and wife.